Precious

Mariela Marin                                                                                   Personality Development 275

      CJC                                                                                                         February 11, 2011

1.      What were the factors that contributed to Precious low self-esteem?

·         the factors that contributed Precious to have a low self-esteem is that her mother lived in telling her that she is a good for nothing, that she is dumb, and when a person tells those negative remarks to an individual that person actually believes that he/she is a good for nothing causing a low self esteem. Another factor is that her father abused her several times making her feel she is useless and worthless and have that mentality that she is dirty from the inside and there is no way she is going to be the same person she was before causing her, again, to have a low self esteem.

2.      What signs of low self esteem did Precious display?

The signs of low self esteem that Precious displayed are:

·         Fear

·         Pain, Guilt

·         Public Speaking (not clear)

3.      What defense mechanism did Precious use to avoid dealing with pain? Give Examples.

·         The defense mechanism Precious uses are:
Denial- she didn’t accept that she needed help in her life where she has been abused.

·         Reaction Formation- where Precious always seemed to be the person that is down to earth and serious, not knowing the life she was going through.

4.      What neurotic need did Precious over- used or display? Give examples.

·         The neurotic need that Precious over used is:
Neurotic Need for self-sufficiency and independence. I believe this is the NN that Precious over use since she used to distance herself a lot from the others and she never asked for help and even when help used to come by her, she refused it.

5.      What helped Precious increase her self esteem?

·         the one thing that helped her with her self esteem is the school that she started to attend, the teacher and the girls who with their kindness helped her a lot that made her fight for her two children and move on without her mother.

6.      What signs of higher self esteem did Precious display?

·         The signs that Precious display that her self esteem was increasing are:

·         She started interacting with others, feeling she can make friends easily

·         She started to do better in school where she started to write and read more often

·         She stood up for herself whereas she left the hell of home she was living in and went to finds help.

7.      What did you learn from the movie?

·         There are many things I learnt from the movie. To start with, I am thankful that I have never been through what Precious and many other people had to go through in life. I learnt that no matter how deep we are in a situation, how dark our days might be, there are always ways in getting out of the hole we are placed in. life is like a roller coaster, sometimes we are up and sometimes we are down. We just have to help ourselves in getting out of any difficult situation that we are living in to see the light that will make us shine someday.

8.      Would you recommend the movie to others? Why?

·         I, personally, would strongly recommend the movie to others because it shows what real life is, life is not always sweet and people like me who hasn’t went through those things realize that people out there are suffering and we should always be more than willing to help them, and for the ones that are going through that situation, it makes them see that there is always a second chance in life and everyone deserves to be happy.

Who I Was

Mariela Marin

CJC

PD275

Who I Was

     My name is Mariela Esperanza Marin; I live in the Trial Farm Village, Orange Walk District. I’m presently eighteen years old; my birthday is on the 29^th of October and my horoscope sign is Scorpio. I attended Trial Farm Government School then went on to Orange Walk Technical High School and now I am in Corozal Junior Collage. I am the fourth of the five children my parents have. Up to this day, I can proudly say that I am proud of all the achievement that I have made come true, for example, reaching at this level of education since from all my sisters, I am the only one that is getting an education.

      I have many things that I try forgetting and moving on so I have a healthy life. One of the things I somehow can’t forget is the trauma of how my dad was when he was drunk and even sober. I grew up in domestic violence and it is hard enough to forget those scary things. I remember my dad wanting to murder me and my little brother because he said we were not his children but, come on! We both have our father’s mask. That’s the past so we have to try forgetting and forgiving what my dad made us go through.

     There are many ups and downs in every one’s life and my one isn’t an exception. The happiest moment of my life is when I saw my nephew Brayden for the first time, he is very handsome, and my gorgeous niece Jaylin as well. Those are the two moments I will never forget since they mean a lot to me and my family. The saddest moment of my life was for this past Christmas. I say this because Christmas is the time where family and friends get together to share the best of moments together, somehow, I couldn’t live that moment this Christmas because none of my sisters was with us, for me they totally forgot us and it just breaks my heart not seeing them for that night. There are times I have felt fear in my life, as a kid I was when I was eight years old, I used to be very mischievous and that lead me to almost lose my life. Luckily I learnt a lesson. It was one day I was climbing a tree to get a guava and for greediness of getting the biggest fruit, I went about way on the top of the tree not noticing the branch I was standing, was about to break. The thing was that I fell and it was about 20feet high. I dropped on top of rocks causing me not to be able to breathe. Oh men! That was very scary, knowing your life can go just because of a fruit. Thank God I’m alive to tell you the story. I have been embarrassed a lot in the past, present and I think that I will always be embarrassed in my life due to the fact that I’m very thin and short. What people cannot understand is that it’s in my jeans, I do eat, and a lot as well but I just can’t gain weight. One thing about me is that I don’t care what people have to say about me. I don’t live for no one to like me. It’s like mind over matter. I don’t mind and they don’t matter to me.

      A life changing moment for me was when I got into my first relationship. There I found out many things I didn’t know and also I experience what people say about “heartbroken”. Form that relationship onwards I learnt not to give almost my all in love but to try limit myself in it; in other words, to love with my brains and not with my heart.

     The people that have always influenced me to continue and make the best of best of my life is my mother, sisters and little brother, my friends, some teachers and cousins. Thanks to them I am who I am today. Especially to my mother, who I see and consider a role model, the best mother in the world. They always push me to positive things, they always bring me up when I am feeling down they are the best for me. I really don’t know what I would have done without them. They are like my guardian angels that illuminate my darkest days with their love and care. That’s just about me and hopefully God continue giving me life to cherish every moment I have with my dear loved ones…